Hanging on to people who don’t see you as a human being with feelings, is going to be the downfall of a lot of people. We tend to hang on to people that we have had in our lives for a long time hoping that they will change, and be the perfect humans we once knew. Unfortunately in most cases, that doesn’t happen. Friends, family, relatives, spouses and colleagues’ love towards us can change with time and what’s important is to realize when that time has come. You don’t ever have to feel guilty about removing toxic people from your life. It doesn’t matter if that person is a friend, relative, colleague, romantic interest, employer, childhood friend or a new acquaintance . It’s a painful phase to cut ties with people you adored, but it’s also healthy, the choice lies with you, to chose your mental health and happiness or stay in a place where you feel unloved.
You don’t have to make room for people who cause you constant and deliberate pain or make you feel small at every chance they get. It’s one thing if a person owns up to their behavior and makes an effort to change. There is nothing wrong with giving second or third chances, if you may, but you have to get to a point where you set the boundaries clear. If a person disregards your feelings, ignores your boundaries and continues to treat you in a harmful way or belittle you behind your back, it’s time to let them go, no exclusions.
People who don’t appreciate you have to be loved from a distance. Cutting ties with people doesn’t make you a bad person and it doesn’t mean you don’t love them anymore, it just means you have decided to keep them in your heart, but out of your life. As you remove toxic people from your life, you free up space and emotional energy for positive, healthy relationships.
The closest people to us are the most dangerous, as they know which buttons to press, and they cause the most pain because you wouldn’t expect such low treatment from them. The other problem can come from within, when we tend to love people too hard and disregard their deliberate faults due to our relation to them.
Types of Toxic People to get rid of:-
- Those who gossip and spread negativity about you, yet smile when you’re with them.
- Those who criticize you all the time
- Those who waste your time
- Those who are jealous of what you do and what you own.
- Self- centered individuals who think they are better than everyone else.
- Those who keep disappointing you and treat you as a second option.
- Those who play the victim after you confront them of their ill treatment towards you.
- People who blue-tick you on Whatsapp (might seem silly but it’s true). Know when you have ceased to be a priority to some people and walk away. Make new friends.
Toxic people tend to be quit manipulative, when you confront them they will act like they don’t know what you’re talking about to make you feel like the fool. They are predators that like to prey on other people’s teas and sadness in order for them to feel good and feel like they are winning at life. Take heed of such individuals. I know people who have are still hanging with people who tore them to bits, all because they are hoping for a better day or that they are too scared to walk away and freak out at the thought of what people they know would say about their decision.
Choose you everyday. Choose your happiness. Choose your mental health. Life is too short to fret about mere human beings whom you have no gain from. Promise yourself that negative minded people will not rent space in your head anymore because they are not worth your thought. Aim to be the best version of yourself everyday, people’s opinions about you will not be your concern anymore. Validate yourself, you’re worth it, beautiful and undefeated.
Always remember that people who are busy discussing your life are not happy about theirs, so when they talk about you, don’t let them control your emotions.
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